Sorry it took me a while to respond. Here are my feelings on this kind of stuff…

First off, let me say that it sounds like you have a good thing going here, and you could potentially ruin it by trying to get her more emotionally involved with you. You’re in college… I think you should just have fun messing around, and if she’s able to control her emotions in a way that she can hook up with you at night and not make it any more serious than that, then I’d let her. You get the best of both worlds – pussy and no strings attached. I realize this might not sound that great when you don’t have a ton of options, and would be happy just tying one girl down, but you’re better off going out there every night and partying your ass off and working on your flirting skills because college is the best time to develop that skill set.

That said, you have to go after what you’re interested in. Obviously you’re interested in this girl, so I say there’s no harm in going after it. But it depends what you want. If you want a serious relationship, then try it out. Personally, I wouldn’t do the serious relationship thing in college because there’s just too much fun stuff going on to be worrying about some significant other. But if you like the girl and that’s what you want, then go for it. Just make sure you’re not getting into a relationship simply because you want to own the girl or control her. That’s a recipe for disaster, because no girl can really be controlled, just like no guy can either. Only do it if you genuinely are only interested in hooking up with that girl and are happy being a one-woman kind of guy.

If the girl is pulling weird shit like ignoring you during the daytime, but being all about you at night when she’s drunk, it probably means she’s insecure about herself and maybe wants to see you put in a little more effort before she’s willing to put herself out there and show her feelings to you. Girls are suckers and always get attached faster than we do, remember that. But they’re also experts in covering it up, and will defend themselves until the bitter end if they can avoid public embarrassment. So if you want to move forward with the girl, and she seems into you when you’re both drunk (truth serum) then show her that you’re serious about her. Tell her you want to take her out on a date or do something a little more official, and ask her if she’d be interested in trying that out.

That said, if the girl is low self-esteem it’s probably more trouble than it’s worth, because once you’re in a relationship with them they’ll start trying to get your balls in a vice and giving you a bunch of bullshit. That’s not the kind of relationship you want, particularly in college. It just gets annoying.

So my final verdict after this rather lengthy reply, would probably be to just enjoy the fact that you have a cool hookup buddy and keep it that way while you can. See if you can get another couple of them, and then you’ll have a fun harem and you won’t worry so much about trying to get in relationships with any one girl.

Let me know if that helps, and keep me updated!

Matthew Bunny

similar to your story, we would both go out and get smashed while later returning home for a good ol hook up session. everything felt solid during those nights that we would be together but only thing was the follow day it would seem as if nothing ever happened…she wouldn’t bring it up and sometimes leave the room when I was there and so forth, you get the picture…

anyways my question for you, since you seem far more experienced than most of my friends with the strategic game of getting women… is that i want to move forward with her but is this a recipe for disaster?

what are your thoughts about odd yet hilarious bitches like these?

get at me.

-roman